Parenting Styles and Bullying
Parent child relationships can either be helpful in this situation or be the root of the problem. Perhaps the most significant struggle when it comes to children being bullied is how parenting styles affect their children and if they benefit or harm the bullying experience. Ronél Van der Watt the author of the article “Attachment, Parenting Styles and Bullying During Pubertal Years” wanted to know how parenting style can affect bullying in children during their pubertal years. It is important to know that the pubertal years bring on significant changes in the parent-child relationship.
They default to derision, criticism, sarcasm, put-downs, and hostility. They may also engage in threats of physical coercion or outright violence, such as pushing or hitting. In short, they develop a bully mentality because they learned it from their parents. There’s another potential consequence of derisive parenting, though. Instead of learning how to be bullies, children bullied by their parents may learn how to become victims. And this learned behavior may manifest in peer relationships when the child is away from the home.
Parenting styles can be described as the ways parents use to parent their children (Aunola et al 217). Psychologists have therefore established three different parenting styles that are used by parents either with or without their consent. The parenting styles, permissive, authoritative and authoritarian are usually based on the communication styles, disciplinary strategies as well as warmth and nurture. This paper is therefore an in-depth analysis of the three basic parenting styles used by most parents.The parenting styles discussed above are applicable depending on the views people hold for each. Each of the three parenting styles has its own merits and demerits. In the permissive parenting style the parents have adequate time to do what they would wish to do since they are not constantly monitoring the children (Spera 2). Chances of separation in such a family are very high since people develop their own different lives. In the authoritarian parenting styles children tend to be very respectful thus parents have low levels of stress. The democratic style on the other hand is very involving for the parents as they have to be on toes and talking with their children to keep the unity of the family. Parents using this style tend to focus more on the negatives rather than the positives such that a child who fails in school or wrongs is severely punished or scolded while the one who has exemplary passed is rarely praised. The children who grow up under this parenting style do not learn to think and do things on their own thus find it very difficult to make decisions later in life. This parenting style is mostly applicable to children who are very stubborn and need to be closely monitored.
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